Kaveh KavoosiJun 7

Your Psyche Favours Familiarity

A man stands on a beach in the dark under a starry sky, pointing up.
“Even in the familiar there can be surprise and wonder.” ― Tierney Gearon

I cannot convince you of anything, nor can anyone else. What they can do, though, is invite a suggestion or insinuation that passes through your adaptive mental constructs for understanding, agreement, inquiry or disagreement.

Then, you, on your own accord, choose whether or not to subscribe to it. This is powerful, yet something important to be aware of.

As your experience bank of life accumulates, your system is constantly evaluating the environment and all interactions for familiarity, first with what it knows, then with what it has a sense of, before the consideration of exploring somewhere or something, including an idea, that falls outside of what is known.

If it is one where curiosity is present, you proceed with your survival detection systems as adapted and available as they are. If interest is minimal or lost, the interaction and engagement progressively falls away to what’s minimally required energy output-wise, in order to satiate what interest is left, possibly reigniting it at times, like learning a new instrument which can sometimes be frustrating and discouraging, or unless it is out of obligation, like some classes in school.

As life progresses, you’ll have the tendency to not only evaluate the environment that favours familiarity, but you will also consciously, sub and unconsciously recreate them, too. The people, places, things, emotions, thought patterns, sources of information, safe places, places you deem uncomfortable or dangerous, favourites, curiosities, concerns, refrains.

CGI graphic of a statue head with celestial patterns superimposed and a colorful cloud gradient.
“Just because something is familiar, doesn’t mean it’s safe. And just because something feels safe, doesn’t mean it’s good for you.” ― Brittany Burgunder

Your life takes on a narration that is predicated on habituality, norms, and there is progressively less expansion, and more repetition with some openness to new. Repetition can be met with relief and appreciation, or it can invite stagnancy, an extinguishing of forms of your curiosity, your interests, and there may be a deep longing for another way, something more; or nothing more.

Familiarity breeds safety; but it also can breed contempt.

For we are ever-curious living beings capable of imagining infinitely more, but are often met by limitations that invite barriers as you approximate to what is unfamiliar.

And it’s in these moments. When an invitation, order or insinuation is brought to you, it will meet the interplay of this system of constructs of mind, experiences of life and their navigations, the power of the suggestion to subscribe or deny. You may be available to the opportunity of subscribing, and you may have loved it, but you were unavailable to consider it or implement it as a result of a progressively higher likelihood as it distances itself from what is familiar and the reward is more obscure.

“How much easier to turn to the old games, the old patterns, the history of warfare and conflict, deception and death. For all its horror, it was familiar. It was known.” ― James S.A. Corey, Caliban’s War

So, here is your invitation. Can you make yourself more available to what isn’t familiar? If not, what stands in the way?